I’m fine. It’s fine. Everything’s fine. Sound familiar? We usually say these three short sentences when we’re anything but fine. We pretend everything is good and we are unaffected when in fact everything isn’t fine and we are indeed affected. Sometimes we don’t know we are affected. In these times, we continue on with our […]
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I was recently watching David Blaine’s show Do Not Attempt, where he travels the world in search of people doing extraordinary things – pushing their minds and bodies beyond their perceived limitations. Watching this, I started thinking about how I’ve allowed my own perceived limitations to stop me. In that moment of realization, something opened
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When I was growing up, the school I attended used to have Field Days once a year. These were some of my most favorite days. In the morning there would be sports competitions amongst the various grades, things like the high jump (a personal favorite), the long jump and shuttle run. In the afternoon we
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What made you smile this week? Can you tell me about a time you felt strong and healthy? When I think of the answers to these two questions, I am immediately put in a good mood. I feel positive and I think about what is possible, even if I’m having a bad day. This is
The Simultaneity Principle: How Your Questions Change You in Real-Time Read More »
In 1929, widespread rumors circulated that banks were unstable. This caused people to withdraw their money and keep it in their homes instead. The panic and the mass withdrawals actually caused the banks to collapse, and the Great Depression was officially underway. In 2020, there was fear that there would be a shortage in supplies
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When I was a kid, I collected weird things. First were stickers. Any type of stickers. Holographic. Fuzzy. Big. Small. I would trade them with friends at school. I would lay them out on my bed and look at them and think about the ones I wanted. I also collected Beanie Babies and Troll Dolls.
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Life feels perfect on paper. The career milestones achieved. The carefully constructed path followed. Yet something profound is missing – a disconnection from who you truly are beneath the layers of conditioning and expectations. This gap between external success and internal fulfillment isn’t random. According to Albert Ellis, the pioneering psychologist who developed Rational Emotive
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How often have you thought to yourself, “I’m a good person?” How often have you looked at someone else and wondered, “Are they a good person?” Now, what characteristics make up a “good person?” Are these things like niceness, kindness, availability, volunteering, alignment of actions and words, living sustainably, putting others first, working hard, or
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You check your phone first thing in the morning and immediately feel anxious. A news alert about economic uncertainty, a social media post that makes you feel inadequate, a text from that friend who always complains. By 8am, you’re already emotionally drained. Sound familiar? We live in an age of information overwhelm, yet most of
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Have you ever caught yourself crafting the perfect email for twenty minutes, carefully choosing each word to avoid any possible misinterpretation? Or found yourself saying “I’m sorry” multiple times throughout the day when you weren’t actually apologetic about anything? If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone – and you’re about to discover why this behavior
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